Intuitive Eating Doesn't Mean You Eat Everything In Sight

 INTUITIVE EATING DOESN’T MEAN YOU EAT EVERYTHING IN SIGHT

One of the biggest concerns my coaching clients have about intuitive eating is that it’s a pass to eat as much as they want.

They feel that if they follow the principles of intuitive eating…instead of the rules of a diet…they are giving themselves permission to overeat.

In reality, the opposite is true.

Let me explain by using an example from my own life that just happened.

I was hungry so I decided to go to the store and get some wings and fries. In this particular store, you can choose exactly how many wings you want and exactly how many potato wedges you want.

So, based on the principle of intuitive eating, I took some time to check in with myself and see where my hunger level was. I thought about how much food I believed I actually needed to satisfy my hunger.

Before intuitive eating, I would have just said “Give me the 10 piece wings and the fries”, and then I would have eaten most if not all of it and felt overly full.

How many of you have found yourself eating all the food just because it’s there?

With intuitive eating, I asked myself what my body needed to feel full, and I decided on 5 wings and 5 potato wedges.

However, as the server was filling my order, I looked at the quantity of food and realized that I really only needed four of each.

So I walked out of the store with 4 wings and 4 potato wedges.

And…it was fine. In fact, now that I think about it and where I am in terms of my fullness level, I probably would have been just fine with three and three.

That’s the beauty of intuitive eating.

You listen to your body. You eat according to what your body needs, not according to what someone else thinks you need. You gather data and adjust accordingly. You trust yourself and believe that you (and not a mass produced diet) know what’s best for you.

The big fear with intuitive eating is that it will cause you to overeat. In my experience, the opposite is true.

I’m actually eating less than I did before.

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You Can Always Buy Bigger Underwear

 YOU CAN ALWAYS BUY BIGGER UNDERWEAR

I was talking to one of my friends today, and she said her fitness goal was to “stop her stomach from attacking her panties”.👙 😀

This made me laugh, and I responded back to her and said, “Or, we can buy bigger panties”. 

I get it. No one likes having to buy bigger clothes. Especially when you still have a closet full of your old smaller clothes. 

When you look at your old clothes, it’s natural to fantasize about getting back in them, so you tell yourself that you’re only one diet away from fitting back into your favorite pants.

I have a closet full of those clothes too, and I completely agree...it’s been really hard to let them go.

For the last few years, I’ve also been on the hunt to find the “magical diet”. You know, the one that will allow me to lose weight while still being able to eat foods I love and never go hungry in the process. After 7 years of searching, I can tell you I still haven’t found it.

What I’ve found are a lot of diets that are restrictive that cause me to eventually break down after a few days and scarf down an entire pint of ice cream as my body screams, “please feed me!”

In fact, I distinctly remember being on one diet where the entire week all I could eat was a protein and 5 asparagus stalks per meal. 

Of course you’re going to lose weight on a diet like this. But what are you having to give up to achieve that goal? And -even if you do lose weight- how long are you really going to be able to sustain that weight loss? You can only eat protein and asparagus for so long. 

The good news is, THERE IS A BETTER WAY.

Instead of denying ourselves the food we really want...instead of beating ourselves up when we look at our bodies in photos...and instead of hiding our bodies in dark clothing...WE CAN CHOOSE TO LOVE AND EMBRACE OURSELVES EXACTLY AS WE ARE NOW.  

That doesn’t mean you won’t ever lose any weight. In fact, when you stop the cycle of yo-yo dieting, you’ll be able to get back in touch with your body’s natural internal hunger cues. 

When you think about it, why do we let a diet guru tell us we can’t eat when we’re hungry and we can’t eat food we actually want to eat? I like chicken and asparagus, but I don’t want to eat it for every meal for an entire week.

Instead of making myself miserable so I can fit into my old clothes, I’ve decided to just buy bigger clothes. And you can too.

Buying bigger clothes isn’t giving up. Buying bigger clothes isn’t admitting defeat.

Buying clothes (and underwear) that fits is one way we can show love to ourselves and our bodies. 

Buying clothes that fit is one way we can take back our lives from the billion dollar diet industry that tells us it’s better to go hungry than buy a bigger pair of panties. 

If this post resonates with you, please join me starting July 26 for an 8 week coaching challenge where I’ll be teaching you how to increase your self-love, body acceptance, and knowledge of intuitive eating. 

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I want to be part of a movement that says it’s ok to buy underwear that fits our bodies AS THEY ARE NOW instead of having to change our bodies to fit our underwear. And I can’t wait to bring you with me.

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Not Every Woman Has the Same Body...And That's Okay

NOT EVERY WOMAN HAS THE SAME BODY...AND THAT’S OKAY ❤️

The other day, my husband dropped some serious knowledge about my body that totally changed my perspective on things. But more on that later. First let me tell you what happened. 

I just bought a gorgeous red dress. I bought it after seeing one of my friends post pictures of herself wearing it on Facebook. She looked so beautiful in it. 

I ordered it online and was so excited for it to be delivered. I’d already imagined myself in it and I couldn’t wait to wear it on a date with my husband. 

The dress arrived, and to my disappointment, it was too big. So I ordered it again in the next smallest size.

While I waited for the dress to arrive, I again imagined myself in it. In fact, while I was waiting for it to arrive, another one of my FB friends posted pictures of herself in this dress too. She also looked gorgeous in it. I couldn’t wait for mine to arrive.

So the dress got here and I tried it on...and...it was too small. It fit everywhere except for across the top where it was just a little bit too tight. 

So the first dress was too big, and the next size was too small. 

I was devastated!

Now back to my husband…

I was telling him about how upset I was that the dress didn’t fit my body like it fit my friends’ bodies. I even pulled up my friends’ pictures on Facebook to show him to further drive home my point. I told him, “See! Look at how good they look in this dress. They look so beautiful. Why can’t the dress look that good on me?”

As I was feeling sorry for myself, my husband looked at me and said, “Trina, they have a different body type than you. Not every dress looks the same on every body type. There’s nothing wrong with that. Just go buy a dress that’s made for your body type.”

He said it just like that. No drama. No judgement. He just spoke facts. 

And he totally made me feel better.❤️ 

The thing is, he’s so right. We don’t all have the same body type, and that’s ok. Every dress doesn’t look the same on all of us, and that’s ok too.

Why do we beat ourselves up when something fits a model or our friends differently than it fits us? 

It’s because that’s what we’ve been conditioned by society and the media to do. Before my husband corrected my thinking, I was being drawn into that internal spiral of feeling like my body wasn’t good enough.

But thankfully, my husband snapped me out of it and brought me back to reality. 

The truth is, MY BODY DOESN’T NEED TO CHANGE TO FIT INTO CLOTHES I LIKE. Instead, I CAN CHOOSE TO SPEND MONEY ON CLOTHES THAT FIT MY BODY...EXACTLY AS IT IS NOW. 

It’s that simple. I still think the red dress I bought is a gorgeous dress. And one day, my body may change such that it fits me beautifully. But today isn’t that day and that’s ok.

So I’m returning both dresses, and I’m buying another dress that fits and flatters my body...exactly as my body is right now. 

Thanks, husband, for the reality check!

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Clothes Shopping: What are you making it mean?

 👖CLOTHES SHOPPING: WHAT ARE YOU MAKING IT MEAN? 👖

Yesterday I went shopping for some new clothes. I’d checked out the store online before going, and found several things I thought were cute.

I was excited to go because now that I’ve been shopping more regularly, I’m loving how I feel in my new clothes.

After all, my renewed interest in shopping is a fairly new thing.

Before, I was stuck in the trap of waiting until I lost a few pounds before I felt like I could go shopping. 

Before, I had a closet full of clothes that I was still hoping to fit back into, if only I could stick to my diet longer than 2 weeks.

Things changed for me a couple of months ago when despite not wanting to, I went shopping anyway.

I’m not going to lie. My first shopping experience was traumatic. But I kept going, and ever since then, I’ve bought so many cute clothes.

I wear my new clothes almost every day now, and I feel so beautiful in them.

So yesterday, I set out to buy some more. I got to the store and chose 2 dresses I loved based on the pictures I saw online.

I went into the dressing room [and deliberately practiced the skill of looking at my body in the dressing room mirror WITHOUT being critical...that’s still a hard one for me].

I tried on the 2 dresses, and although they both fit, neither was very flattering on me. 

I simply couldn’t imagine myself wearing either of these dresses and feeling beautiful. 

So I put the dresses back and left the store. 

HERE’S THE PART THAT’S STILL BLOWING MY MIND…

Even though the clothes didn’t look good on me...I didn’t get upset. I didn’t beat myself up. I didn’t tell myself I needed to lose weight. I didn’t tell myself to eat fewer calories or exercise more. 

It’s all about what you CHOOSE to make it mean.

For me, I chose to make it mean that yes, those were nice dresses and they looked good on the models online, but they fit my body differently.

Notice, I DIDN’T make it mean that I’m fat or ugly. I simply made it mean that we all have different bodies, and the same outfit doesn’t look the same on all of our bodies. And that’s ok.

I struck out yesterday while shopping, but I’m not devastated by the experience. I’ll simply try again another time. 

There’s a million dresses out there, and I know without a doubt that there are some that look great on me. They just weren’t in that particular store yesterday.

THAT’S WHAT I MADE IT MEAN. THAT’S IT...AND THAT’S ALL. 

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